Marriage and Divorce in Today’s Society Love has been a popular theme in every form of media for centuries. Shakespeare, The Beatles, even deadbeat rappers make references to making love somehow. And all this time it has been glorified and put on this pedestal, that makes it seem like it will last forever, this is very far from the truth. I believe that said glorification and overuse of the idea of “love” has given people in today’s society the wrong idea.
Movies like “Eat, Pray, Love” and “Dear John” never seems to show what happens 10 years later when the kids are keeping you way too busy to do the last two and Johns beer belly is so big that he can’t even see his own toes. Divorce has also suffered from all this attention as it currently has this stigma which makes everybody believe that this leads to sadness and a horrible time in someone’s life.
The third point is the fact that Society as a whole has evolved from what it used to be 50 years ago, this obviously due to the increase in industrialization which leads to more employees being needed, comprising of both males and females. The fourth and final point will be the fact that love doesn’t last forever, this doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the world, but a mere chapter in a very large book. Hundreds of romantic movies are created every year, all these are the same story being told on end, and we still eat them up year after year.
Hollywood shoves this ridiculous idea of love down our throats and we love it. Because deep down in our being we know that this is complete fiction, the love you see in those movies would be impossible to re-create, simply because human beings are not meant to have only one partner for their entire lives. It is proven by science that approximately only 3 to 5 percent of mammals are monogamous, humans not included. But it is not like this was a recent thing, ever since man first discovered than women love romantic lies it has been put to good use.
In the comedy “The Taming of the Shrew” by William Shakespeare, a fiery, rebellious woman by the name of Katherine is to be married to a man named Petrucio. Throughout the play Katherine becomes less herself and more a good, loving wife that will obey everything her husband tells her to do, even when he starved her. At the very end of the play Katherine gives a long speech advocating that wives should be loyal to their husbands “Thy husband is thy lord, thy life, thy keeper, Thy head, thy sovereign, one that cares or thee, And for thy maintenance commits his body To painful labour both by sea and land, To watch the night in storms, the day in cold, Whilst thou liest warm at home, secure and safe, And craves no other tribute at thy hands But love, fair looks, and true obedience, Too little payment for so great a debt. . . . My mind hath been as big as one of yours, My heart as great, my reason haply more, To bandy word for word and frown for frown; But now I see our lances are but straws, Our strength as weak, our weakness past compare, That seeming to be most which we indeed least are.
Then vail your stomachs, for it is no boot, And place your hands below your husband’s foot, In token of which duty, if he please, My hand is ready, may it do him ease. ” (Shakespeare, vii 140-183) What effect did this have on women back then? This play influenced women, teaching them that they should not be independent and that their only goal in life is to be a wife. Nowadays nothing goes to this sort of extreme, but it still influences the way we look at love, and the thing is people need to understand that all of this is complete fiction, love does not last forever.